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    When the Act of Forgiveness Can Be Harmful to Self and Others When the Act of Forgiveness Can Be Harmful to Self and Others

    When the Act of Forgiveness Can Be Harmful to Self and Others

When the Act of Forgiveness Can Be Harmful to Self and Others

This article comes in light of the many incidences where a member of the Black community is harmed/assaulted/killed and then they or their survivors immediately forgive the perpetrator of the incident.  Lately, these actions have begun to come under criticism by the Black community, because not only are other communities not asked to do the same, automatic forgiveness is also not particularly empowering.  To the Black community, these actions  illustrated a pattern that Black Americans are supposed to automatically take a “no harm no foul” attitude no matter how much harm is done to them.

 

There have been many explanations of the reason our community has this kind of automatic forgiving response when it experiences harm and trauma. Dr Francis Cress Welsing had a very detailed synopsis for this behavior (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G-VGlNTfSgM) As we have seen, this behavior had not changed anything, or has lessened systematic white supremacy’s effect on the lives of the Black community.

 

The following explains why the behavior of blind forgiveness will never affect systematic white supremacy, and it actually brings more harm to the community and ultimately specific steps the Black community can take to change this behavior, and to stop and eventually reverse the cycle of harm and begin to address healing the mental health issues.

 

One of the aspects of blind automatic forgiveness that hasn’t truly been discussed are the holistic influences that affect everything from our thoughts, words and actions. This widespread influence comes from our subconscious and ultimately our DNA, other individuals and the environment. What we do and the actions we take can affect our energy/influences, which affects our future experiences. I am sharing this concept so you can understand how our actions keep us on the gerbil wheel of oppression that we can’t seem to break from.

 

So how can forgiveness […]

By |May 7th, 2017|Blog|0 Comments

Kid Cudi’s Public Rehab Checkin Due To Depression – Healing the Suppressed Anger

When Kid Cudi announced his checkin to a rehab center for depression and suicidal thoughts, it brought a tidal wave of other black men coming forward and sharing their experiences of depression and anxiety under the hashtag #YouGoodMan.

 

 

While these are just a sample of some of the tweets, there all have a common theme at their core and that theme is:

1) Black men have suppressed an incredible amount of anger over their lives, and have probably had some passed down to them as well. None of this anger has been addressed and has finally come out in the form of Depression & Anxiety.

2) Black men have been socialized by the […]

By |October 6th, 2016|Blog|0 Comments
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    The Life You Would Love To Live Is Just a Thought Away The Life You Would Love To Live Is Just a Thought Away

    The Life You Would Love To Live Is Just a Thought Away

The Life You Would Love To Live Is Just a Thought Away

What Kind Of Reality Do You Truly WANT To Experience?

I was recently in a conversation with several people who had their own ideas of how the world should be (don’t we all have our own opinions on that topic?)  The thing that struck me was no matter how opposite the ideas were, everyone focused on what upset them the most instead of what they wanted.  I communicated with there was a way to approach having what you wanted with much less struggle.  This is what the basis of this article is about and I will describe it from the point of view of energy, as we are energetic beings and are affected by energy.

1)  There are only 2 states of being in which we can exist Love or Anger

Most of us see Love or Anger as an emotion, however it is really a state of being.  These states of being produce numerous thoughts, which create the emotions within us, which affect how we interact with the world and how the world interacts with us.  For instance, those that are in the state of being of Love, feel emotions of feeling joy, happiness, contentment, confidence, well-being, empathy, altruism, selflessness, gratitude & optimism among others.  Those that are in the state of being of Anger feel emotions of rage, frustration, jealousy, helplessness, fear, depression, hate, selfishness, judgement, shame, guilt, blame & vengeance among others.

Why is it important to not only understand this, but to know where you are throughout the day?  Because how you choose to exist (Love or Anger) will determine what you are thinking and ultimately projecting out into he world around you and how others & situations respond to you.  Science has been able […]

By |August 15th, 2016|Blog|0 Comments

Change – Foe or Friend – How Do I Handle Change? Here Is A Simple How

the more you fight changeChange is a natural human process and is ever evolving. We change as we make new decisions. We also find that we are required to change as our situations and relationships change. Sometimes we hope others will change in ways we wish or expect and are disappointed when they don’t. We change as we passion new and improved ways to live happy, fulfilled, balanced and fruitful lives. From a passion to be more we invite change into our lives. When life appears to unravel unexpectedly it is because we are opposing and wanting to control the change in our mood by attempting to blame and judge what we misperceive and believe to be what triggered the unwelcome change.
“You cannot have an outside fix to and inside problem.” – Veronique
The need to adapt to changing circumstances can, at times, leave us feeling helpless, powerless, afraid, even hurt if we misperceive our circumstances that brought the change into existence. At the root of all discord, sometimes buried, yet still existing is unresolved misperceptions that create angry/fear based/hurt filled responses. If highly charged negative emotions are left unresolved they build upon themselves. Our minds then repeat thoughts in our head where negative beliefs build and continue to fester even more misunderstandings that leads us to feel that ‘change’ is a foe instead of a friend.
When one fully allows the situation that contained the ‘change’ in how we were feeling or our circumstances — without judgment, blame, guilt, or shame, — and instead we look for the purpose and good in what the […]

By |March 1st, 2016|Blog|0 Comments
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    The First Step in Changing Anything is Commitment The First Step in Changing Anything is Commitment

    The First Step in Changing Anything is Commitment

The First Step in Changing Anything is Commitment

OK, so how many personal, or business development weekends or seminars have we attended only to have absolutely nothing change in our lives, whereas others who have attended the exact same class was able to create major life changes for themselves?  I’m raising my hand here.  I have attended many of these things only to experience minor/if any changes in my life where others were able to create quite an improvement in their lives.

In fact one seminar I attended dealing with some aspect of real estate, was quite pricey and I had vowed to myself I would at least make my money back in this seminar.  Not only did this not happen, but one of the instructors who became an instructor after only 2 years after taking the same course, eventually left the realestate business when the market dictated it, and moved into my field only to soar past me after only being in my field for 1 year.

That is a pretty humbling experience, yet one that can also be a very good visual of what it is that he was doing and I wasn’t.  I would say it wasn’t skill or intelligence.  I would say it was commitment.  He was more committed to being successful and I was more committed to staying in my comfort zone and being arrogant enough to convince myself that it was enough to achieve the results I wanted to have.

The important thing is that in each and every moment we are committed to something.  If what we are committed to isn’t creating the results we want, then it is insanity to stay committed to that.  In the moment we realize that what we have committed to isn’t giving us what we […]

The 5 Commandments Of A Success Consciousness:

As a service provider, not only is it important to develop and maintain a success consciousness for yourself to keep your business profitable and growing, it is also important to have that consciousness for your customers and clients.  Whether you realize it or not, your degree of consciousness is on display to your customers by how you interact with them, and by the experiences they have in your store.  The condition of your store, the quality of your business and the feeling people have when interacting with you, or your business is a direct reflection of your level of consciousness.

Why is this important to be aware of your level of consciousness?  Because service providers are considered the leaders, or experts in their field and need to have a good handle on their own inner growth, and awareness.  Your customers come to you for more information and guidance to become more successful themselves, and if your business is disorganized, if you have trouble making your rent, or your personal life is in chaos, then how can you be the shining beacon of light for your customers?  Even if they may not be conscious and aware of this, we are all one, and on some level, they DO know.  Why should they spend thousands and thousands of dollars on inner growth material with someone who is struggling just as much as they are?

The good news is that it isn’t as difficult, or doesn’t take as long to turn things around.  If you are aware of the 5 commandments of success consciousness, you can apply them not only to your business, but to your personal life as well.  Using these concepts consistently and in a grounded way, […]

By |March 9th, 2013|Blog|0 Comments

Everyone Has Power – Even the Seemingly Lowest Among Us

I was having a conversation with a friend of mine about power and what that really means.  This friend is a very wise individual who I think has uncovered the recipe of life.  In any respect, I was talking about an article i read about sex trafficking and sex slaves.  The article said that in these cases, the people who participate in such activities, have a sense of power over the sex slaves, and see them as objects.  Having the feeling of ‘power’ over the sex slave makes them feel very important.

The truth is, that no one really has power over you.  In the current moment, it may seem like there are others who are in a position of power over you.  In that case certain aspects it would be true (meaning they have control over you physically in the moment.  The one thing that no one has control over, is the thoughts that you think and how you perceive a situation.  The power is that what you think about most, you will eventually receive.  If you are in a situation where it seems hopeless, then focusing on the hopelessness, will change nothing.  Focusing on what you want to change and feeling how you will feel in that new situation will change your situation.  This is why no one ultimately has power over anyone.  As you increase in your personal growth, you will begin to see truth of this example.

By |July 6th, 2010|Blog|0 Comments

Secrets of the Rich – Why are the Rich That Way?

Why are the rich so well off financially while the vast majority of society is struggling?  Why did the popular book The Secret not work for the majority of those that read it?  It wasn’t a hoax, it wasn’t something that was a bunch of BS that wasn’t real.  It was just missing, or not emphasizing some key elements that would have made the difference.

The key is, that you have to know that you are going to receive what it is that you are asking for, no matter how seemingly impossible it looks.  What most of us do is we base what we can have based on what is in front of us that we can interact with by using our 5 senses.  That is only .1% of the whole picture.  99.9% of the whole picture comes from beyond our 5 senses (that 6th or 7th sense).  Our thoughts and beliefs are what will keep us in line with creating what it is that we want.  When we begin to doubt, we push it away, and we have to start over again.  Doubting = the death of your dream.  That is why the techniques in The Secret didn’t work for many people.  They were erased by doubt, and the huge ingrained habits of negative thinking that we have all been programmed to approach life with.

Think about how many negative, self defeating thoughts you have on a daily basis?  The truth is, you are using The Secret, but you aren’t using it in a way that will give you what you love.  Keep track of the number of negative thoughts you have on a daily basis, and make a commitment to yourself to reduce it […]

By |July 1st, 2010|Blog|0 Comments

I’m Back to posting again – Boy Do I have a new Perspective!

Well, I’m back!

It’s been a while, but I have even more of a new perspective.  The one thing that I have really come to know is that no matter how much you think you know, there is always A LOT more that you don’t know.  And what I have come to know is that understanding, and KNOWING are really 2 different things.  You can understand something, but if you don’t do it, or aren’t living it, then you don’t really KNOW it then do you?

I hear so many times, people say “I already know that”.  So then I wonder “Then why aren’t you DOING it?”  If you hear yourself say that and you aren’t doing it. you u thank the messenger that shared  that piece of information with you again, as a part of you want’s to know, because you have heard it, but your ego part of you is pushing it away because it doesn’t want to deal with it.

The solution?  Don’t judge the messenger, and don’t judge yourself that you aren’t doing it, or a part of you is resisting it.  The more you let go of your judgments, the more your resistance falls away.

In any case, I’ll be speaking more about my adventures with The Choice Is Mine.  I also picked up something called “Your Wish Is Your Command” as well and have been listening to them as well.  Fascinating stuff.  I think the combo of them both is unstoppable.

Well, that’s it for now!

To Your Success!

By |May 5th, 2010|Blog|0 Comments

Experience of the 2009 ISSSEEM Conference

The 2009 ISSSEEM conference was indeed an interesting event.  I spent a lot of time volunteering for the event at the bookstore and had a chance to briefly speak to many of the presenters.  I was also able to attend the round table community discussion on the 29th with Deepak Chopra, Rustum Roy and Nisha Money.  This was a very interesting event because the discussion was about consciousness and how to raise the consciousness of the planet.

The thing that I realized the most was that I realized that through studying The Choice Is Mine over the last 2 years gave me a certain understanding of consciousness.  The basic discourse during the discussion was that all of our experiences, whether it be events, or objects, exixt purely in our consciousness.  The understanding developed from The Choice Is Mine is that we can change our experience, or reality at the snap of a finger because our reality exists in our consciousness.  If we don’t do it, it isn’t because we can’t, it’s because there is something that we are receiving out of what we are currently experiencing.  The quickest way to change it is to not judge what we are currently experiencing and allow ourselves to get out of the experience what we created to give ourselves.  The more we resist our creations, the more they persist and true change cannot take place.

So out of this whole event, I got a true understanding of that concept.  It moved from a knowing to a being.  Very, very powerful stuff!  The allowance of all things has taken a major shift.  The first thing I noticed is some physical effects.  Some chronic pains began reducing once I really began […]

By |July 6th, 2009|Blog|4 Comments