What does can’t really mean? Can’t is actually not found in the dictionary, but it is used in our language on a daily basis. How many times do you use the word can’t? How many times do you say can’t during the day? When do you say it? Why do you say it? When you think about it, ‘can’t’ is a very safe word that keeps us in our comfort zone. When we say ‘can’t’ we are saying “doing this will take me out of my comfort zone and I am not willing to step outside of my comfort zone at this time.” It is a subtle, yet very powerful way that shapes our lives and keeps us in the illusion that we are not responsible for the outcome of our lives. Listen to this recording of the word can’t and what it means.

I had a conversation with someone earlier today about living our lives and some of the things that we have experienced in our past. One of the things that she was stating was that the reason why she was struggling for the past 5 years was because she wasn’t living her life. It was a struggle for her because she had to spend so much time in her head trying to figure out the things she needed to do to live a life that wasn’t hers. That got me to thinking…. Am I living my life? I then asked myself, if there was no societal or parental pressure, what would I be doing with my life? I had to answer truthfully, that it wouldn’t be what I am doing now. I realized that is why I am struggling in my life is because I am also spending a lot of time in my head trying to “figure it out”.  The things that come easily, naturally and joyfully to me aren’t the things I am doing to make a living, or expressing myself.  Because I can pick up things quickly, and my IQ is on the high side of average, I am able to make it work.  And for me, I think  that was the thing that took it so long for me to realize that I wasn’t living my life, because I was making what I had “work”.

That is the crux of things.  Is what you are doing now making the life you are living “work”? You are able to be somewhat successful, but you have to put a lot of effort into it.  You have fallen for that old puritan fable of “you have to work hard in order to get anywhere in life”.  With that belief, it’s no wonder why the majority of us are not living the lives we are supposed to be living.  We believe things are supposed to be difficult and a struggle, and we have fallen into the “comfort zone” of what we are supposed to do instead of stepping outside of that “comfort zone” and turning away from what we are told we should be doing and living our joy instead.

This is one of the reasons why most of the Law of Attraction, and Manifestation books and courses tell us why the emotion is so important, especially being in the joy of loving what you do is so important to create the life you want.  If you are not in the joy of what you are doing, then you are not living your life, but you are living another’s life.  By living another’s life, the energy that you could put into creating the life you want is not going into creating the life you want, but struggling to “figure it out”.

It’s like your in-born method of transportation is a plane, but you don’t use one because someone told you you should use a car to get to your destination, and so you use a car to get to where you want to go.  Since you don’t know how to drive a car, you do the best you can and you put the car in neutral and push it towards your destination.   Maybe one day, someone comes along and tells you about releasing the emergency brake… Ok, makes it easier.  Then later someone comes along and tells you about starting the engine and pressing on the gas.  Then later someone shows you how to steer, then use the brakes…. etc.  This is all if you are aware and open enough to allow someone else to instruct you.  Meanwhile, those that are using their natural talents to fly the plane are probably at their destination already, and boy did they have a fun time looking at the scenery and enjoying the trip because they just knew how to fly that plane!

This also brings me to the point of personal development or self improvement material.  I have read a lot of these types of books and taken many courses of all types in the past and the ones that I have taken that have given me the complete structure of this is how I do it, where the ones that were the least successful for me.  Am I trying to live someone else’s life in this case as well?  What worked for them may not work for me.  The courses that gave me the building block tools, and then a system for HOW I can use them in my own way that is most supportive of me, were the courses that I had the most success with.  Usually these types of courses incorporate using your own intuition as that is what is the best guidance system in determining  how it works best for you.

Please share your feedback on any experiences you’ve had.

Tags:   living your truth, personal development

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I attended a teleseminar the other day, and it was basically about the intuition and how it is really the guidance system we should be paying attention to, and not our mind.  The subtle understanding of the intuition is that it is completely unconditional.  As a result, following our intuition will never lead us to experience loss, lack or illness because when we make decisions and live from an unconditional mindset, or beingness, we are not pushing away abundance by living through fear.   The simple physics of it is that no two things can occupy the same place at the same time, so we are either being unconditional in the moment or conditional in the moment.

One of the things that was mentioned on the teleseminar is that sometimes people feel that they have followed their intuition and it got them into trouble.  The presenter explained that if whatever feeling you followed, you ended up with some sort of loss or struggle, then it wasn’t your intuition, but some conditional based feeling that you were following.  The intuition doesn’t come from an emotional place, so if you are experiencing any kind of emotional jolt with whatever feeling comes up, then you can pretty much bet that it isn’t your intuition.  That is a pretty powerful subtlety that makes all of the difference in the world when it comes to knowing when it is your intuition and when it isn’t.

This is just the tip of the iceberg.  To go much deeper, it is explained much better in TCIM.

Tags: teleseminar, intuition, personal development

The upcoming teleseminar generated a small discussion in a personal development forum. It was about one of the submitted questions that was answered prior to the teleseminar. One part of the answer caught the attention of someone which was:

We never create what doesn’t in some way serve our highest priority.

This answer was in response to someone asking how they could create $7000 by June 15th. Well, if we are the creators of our experiences, then why would we create a situation that would put us in the hole for $7000? I mean, who enjoys that? Why not just create a situation that you don’t need that amount of money so quickly, or that you already have it in your bank account?

The importance of this answer is that for some reason and purpose, the situation was created exactly as it was because the person is receiving something out of needing $7000 in less than a week. This is the key understanding when it comes to the Law of Attraction and manifestation. We are ALWAYS using the Law of Attraction, and we are always attracting to us, what is our highest priority. We just may not be aware of what is our highest priority.

The power of a system that allows you to know what is your highest priority, is that it very quickly uncovers what are your subconscious beliefs that are holding you back. The power of a system such as TCIM, is that it uncovers your subconscious beliefs in a way that allows you to be unconditional with yourself. Your current highest priority is your current highest priority…. now what are you going to do about it? If it is nothing, so be it. Just understand it is currently your highest priority and that you will continue to receive the same results. Take responsibility in that decision and don’t judge yourself.

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I was recently on a forum where someone was asking about karma and what is it exactly.  They gave an example of person A taking $5 from them and then they took $5 from person B, how does that work in the karmic bank so to speak.  Karma is a very interesting subject that can be quite confusion.  First Karma is not about keeping a balance sheet.  It is a pact we make with ourselves to show us when we are creating from love or creating from fear.  This is a great excerpt from the personal development course The Choice Is Mine that describes it in wonderfully.

“….What I have discovered over time is, Karma/dharma is really
you. You holding you back until you choose to look at and experience
life by being love instead of being fear-conditional. Until
you get that, you will continue to repeat, fear-based conditional
experiences as you hold yourself back repeating what you choose
to repeat until you allow love to be your guide instead of attempting
to control and manipulate your experiences through
conditional fear-based choices. ….”

This makes sense when you look at how some people can do the same thing and have very different outcomes.  It is  because karma takes into account the intent of the action.  If the intent is fear based, you will experience karma through loss, lack and illness.  If the intent was based on love, you will experience karma through grace, ease and abundance.

So what about the case of what happened to Jesus Christ?  The Choice Is Mine can explain it much better than I could.

The Choice Is Mine, an out-of-this-world personal development system is giving a teleseminar Tuesday June 10th at 8:00pm eastern time, on one of the tools in the personal development system, that discusses how we can speed up our own personal growth.

The topic of the teleseminar is:

Remember what I have forgotten within myself and I have no life lessons.

This concept is interesting because it basically says that we already have everything in us that we require. It’s just a matter of pulling it out of ourselves. Think of the energy and time that can save us!  It also makes me wonder if the experiences we put ourselves through is not really about learning at all, but remembering, and we are just in the illusion that we are learning!  Hmm… This would be just cutting out the “middle-man” so to speak!

For those of you who are interested, you can reserve your spot online. Spaces are limited. The concepts in this material are very new and come from a fresh perspective. A perspective that is very effective in assisting you in moving past what blocks you and quickly.

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The Choice Is Mine Training Teleseminar

We feel we need to go through lesson after lesson after life lesson in order to grow, or to gain insights so we can become more conscious.  Each lesson takes us closer to the insights that we feel we need to learn to get to that next step.  However, we have forgotten that we already have all of that insight, and knowledge within us already.  It isn’t a matter of going through lesson after lesson.  It is just a matter  of allowing ourselves to remember what it is that we have forgotten.  We don’t require life lessons when all we need to do is allow our intuition to come online and connect us with that inner knowledge.

The energy it takes to allow is much lower than the energy to learn, especially if it is done through going through experience after experience after experience.

This comes from a question in another site where a member was commenting about the power of Mantras and had shared her experience with mantras and the one she used.

I thought about that one and there is one that I use that puts me into a more empowering state but it isn’t your typical mantra from one of your eastern religion.  The mantra that I use is:

It is what it is, it is what it is, it is what it is.

I use this phrase when I experience any type of upset during my day.  Repeating this over and over again discharges the emotion that I may be having around the experience.  There almost isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t use this phrase.  In fact, I used it several times today!

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Many people see spirituality as a sense of denying themselves anything of a physical nature.  I see it as we are here in a physical manifestation and while we are here, we might as well enjoy it.  Our enjoying the experience in this manifestation doesn’t diminish who we are as spiritual beings.  We are all things.  It is OK to have desires.  Desires allow us, to experience this dimension in all of its glory. We live in this world, so worldly pleasures are not ‘wrong’ to experience. If it was ‘wrong’ to experience them, we would be existing in a place where there are no worldly pleasures.

The confusion, in my humble opinion, is when we choose to DEFINE ourselves through our desires instead of EXPRESS ourselves through our desires.  This is where we lose our way because then we make life as originating from outside ourselves instead of inside ourselves.

So the next time you desire something, if it brings you joy, and it is honestly good for you, then by all means, express your beingness by experiencing that desire.  It won’t reduce your spirit, or make you less spiritual.  Life is here to be experienced, so experience away!

Tags: personal development,   abundance, law of attraction, self improvement

The missing piece to attracting what you want in your life is the understanding that we live in a physical world and that requires physical action - or doing.  When we receive an ah-ha, or an insight, what do we do with that?  Do we just think about it?  Do we process it over and over again?  Or do we DO something about it?  What action do we take with that ah-ha or insight that we have?  What do we begin doing differently at that moment?

One way to approach it is to accept what it is you have done up to this point has given you what you currently have.   Don’t judge yourself for it.  Stand in the unconditional responsibility that you are receiving exactly what you want, whether it is conscious or not.  If it is NOT what you consciously want, determine what you are getting out of the situation and once you understand that piece, you can choose differently.  When you choose differently, you do differently.

It is in the doing that gives us what we want, but we can’t get that until we know what it is that we need to do differently.  We can’t know what to do differently until we understand what it is that we are getting out of the current situation we are in.  Ask yourself the questions and allow your intuition to give you the answers.  Don’t judge the answers you get, and then decide if you really want change in your life or you are actually satisfied with what you are receiving from your current situation.  Whatever you decide, stand in the knowing that this is what you have created for yourself, and accept the responsibility of what you have created.   The choice is then yours.