One consistent and popular theme concerning the Ego is it is
looked upon as bad and something we have to constantly work to
get rid of. I myself fell into constantly berating the ego and
fighting against it. Doing this unknowingly created an on going
and increasing problem for myself. The more I fought against the
ego, the more confused I became, and less confident I felt. If
you have experienced much of the same, let me explain what
happen that changed all that for me.

Somewhere deep inside I was feeling that something was missing
in what I could do to help myself gain more clarity, confidence
and ultimately live my birth right of health, wealth and
happiness. I called out for help. When I asked I received huge
assistance in the form of being able to look at life and what
was happening in my life more unconditionally. I felt fortune
was smiling on me because I came across an understanding of the
Ego that I have never seen elsewhere. It was through a course
that provided insights and a framework for life, in a very
grounded systemic way that allowed me to make giant strides in
my life and move me forward at a pace that I had never
experienced before because I understood cause and effect,
attraction and countless other principles on a much deeper and
simpler level.

By using this material (mentioned at the end of this article),
I was able to integrate the powerful knowledge this course
provided and actually use my Ego, unconditionally and
responsibly to assist me and empower me to easily meet my
goals.

Let me share briefly upon what this material taught and awakened
within me as a level of truth I knew was missing yet didn’t
know where to find it.

We Are Actually Supposed To Have An Ego

We are supposed to have an ego. I just didn’t know how to allow
my Ego to serve me instead of distract me. Our Ego is a part of
us just as our heart and soul are a part of us. Yet this is the
only part of us that is described as “something we need to get
rid of.” It is like someone telling us that we need to get rid
of our left arm, or our lungs. Those are the physical parts of
us that we use to function as a body in this dimension, just as
our Ego as a part of our being, allows us to function in this
dimension. We require our Ego to experience life through our
own personality, viewpoint and our own way of being. The Ego
expresses our preference for lemonade over orange juice, or our
preference for vacations in Hawaii over vacations in London.
Our Ego is what makes life interesting for us, our Ego is what
allows us to express our unique gift throughout the world. It is
the one thing that makes us unique unto ourselves.

Is there any wonder why we have all struggled for years and
years attempting to ‘get rid’ of our Ego? Why would we want to
eliminate the very thing that gives us our own unique flavor?

What ‘Getting Rid of the Ego’ is Confused With

Getting rid of our Ego is usually confused with bringing our Ego
back into balance to be expressed as the Pure Ego. Our Pure Ego
is the ego that lives as our childlike innocence and wonder of
unconditionally discovering the world that we live in. Take for
example, what happened when we learned how to walk. We were in
our Pure Ego when we learned how to walk. When we realized that
walking was a better way to discover the world around us, we
began our own mission - to learn how to walk. So we crawled and
stumbled and took tentative steps and fell, and got back up
again, and fell again, and did it over and over until we had it
down. Each time we developed a deeper understanding of how we
needed to shift our weight, or where we needed to put our foot,
all through trial and error, but each time we saw the
improvement and each time we added something new to our movement
that improved our balance and stability. We didn’t focus on what
we did that didn’t work, we focused on what we did do that
WORKED. We could not have learned how to walk if we were in our
Altered Ego.

Our Altered Ego is the ego that comes from fear and judgment as
opposed to love. It is when our Ego has become out of balance
with Self and sees life conditionally. What would learning how
to walk be like if we were in our Altered Ego? Most of us would
probably still be sitting and crawling. We would first have gone
through a lot of processing about taking action to learn how to
walk or not….Would it be safe? What would my family think?
What if I fall down? Then we would finally take our first
tentative steps, wobble and then fall down. After thoroughly
chastising ourselves for falling and believing we are not good
enough to walk, or not being sure if we should even attempt it.
But we don’t want to give up too soon because we really do want
to learn how to walk. So we would read several self-help
manuals telling us that we are good enough to walk and we can
do it, and we’re the little engine that could. Those of us that
gathered our courage again, would make another attempt, and fall
again would go through another round of “what is wrong with us
and why can’t we get this walking thing right?” Our
self-criticism would be extremely high, and our belief in
ourselves would plummet. We would begin to fall into the
illusion that we just can’t walk and will never be able to, and
perhaps we just weren’t meant to walk and who do we think we are
even thinking that we have the right to walk in the first place?

We are so focused on judging ourselves that we don’t even
realize all of the things that we did that allowed us to stand
for 5 or 10 seconds. Instead, we focused on all of the things
that caused us to fall down.

If we have enough desire, and our will hasn’t been thoroughly
crushed by now, we may go through another round of self-help
books and therapy to build up our confidence level. For those
of us who stay focused on the end goal, we finally manage to
walk. For those of us who keep ourselves mired in the mindset
of what we did wrong and continue to judge ourselves as not
deserving to be able to walk, we never get up off of the floor,
and we keep ourselves in the illusion that walking isn’t what we
were meant to do.

Why Understanding The Pure Ego and Altered Ego Is Important For
Our Personal Development

The difference between learning how to walk on our Altered Ego
vs our Pure Ego is that when we were learning to walk while
being in our Pure Ego, we focused on what we wanted (the ability
to walk), and stayed in the joy of the process (what we did
right, focusing on the progress we were making and having fun
while learning). We still used our Pure Ego, because that is
the part of us that gave us the drive and the yearning to learn
how to walk. That is the part of us that gave us the passion to
persist until we were done, and that is the part of us that
allowed us to experience joy while we were going through our
experience. Consider this… How many toddlers have you seen
screaming in terror, anger, fright, etc. while learning how to
walk? Not many right? Most of the time they have HUGE grins on
their faces that say “Look what I’m doing!” These little tykes
can hardly contain themselves!

When we were learning how to walk while being in our Altered
Ego, we weren’t having much fun. We were making it difficult
for ourselves by over-analyzing everything we were doing and
judging the crap out of ourselves for not getting something
“perfect” in the first attempt. For those of us that managed to
get up off of the ground, we certainly extended the process, and
we certainly were not enjoying the experience. We lost focus of
what we wanted, which was learning how to walk, because we were
so focused on what we were doing wrong and making ourselves
“lesser” because we fell down a couple of times. We can choose
to be in the frame of mind of saying “well that way certainly
didn’t work, but there are all these other ways to experience.”
Or we can be in the frame of mind that says “Boy do I suck! I
can’t do this! I can’t do ANYTHING!” Being in our Altered Ego
completely got in our way of achieving what we wanted….
learning how to walk.

We do require an Ego to be in the joy of living in this world,
however it is OUR choice as to HOW we want to live in this
world. We can use the Ego to support what we want in our lives,
or to hinder what we want in our lives. We can learn how to
incorporate the Ego into our lives through material such as The
Choice Is Mine which teaches us how to be unconditional with
ourselves so we can experience abundance and ease in our lives
more quickly. This lifetime companion allows us to move at our
own pace while we are living our day to day lives.

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Tags: personal development, ego, personal growth, self improvement, personal transformation

Written by B. Davis

Although this article is available to anyone, yet only those who have purchased THE CHOICE IS MINE 2 volume course can really relate to it in an more empowering way. The reason is they know and have read these keys and now just are requiring a few ideas to apply them to their own lives. We again would strongly encourage all to purchase this course and really be able to participate and get something stronger out of these articles. Although Veronique’s words are strong and THE CHOICE IS MINE is a innovative and powerful tool to help guide all of you in the everlasting and abundance-filled life, these articles will not be her words, but a relational tool to help you better understand how to conquer her strength. Each article will pertain to a different key and will help you walk through the steps of completing THE CHOICE IS MINE, and either enhancing or beginning your new life today.

One of the groundbreaking factors THE CHOICE IS MINE brings to its readers, are the Twelve Keys. Each Key represents something that we are subconsciously aware of in life, but not really fully consciously aware of. For example, we may realize we do certain things to others or to ourselves, but we never really realize how much these things can affect our lives. One of these “things” in particular is our ego. The first Key that Veronique talks about is called “Knowing the Pure and Divine Ego.” Veronique translates this into “How I see the completeness of me by knowing and allowing self wholly to enable yourself to graciously serve others.” This relates to argumentation put on within our egos and us. When we put our altered egos aside, or use our ego through our innocence pure- we no longer judge. This is something Veronique feels strongly about and wants to ensure in all of us. She divides this specific key into three subheadings. They include:

• How the ego “fell from the grace” of being united with the heart and soul.
• How you can be “all of who you are meant to be” when you unify the heart, soul, and ego as one.
• The ego as it “will be” if nurtured through being love versus fearing it through conditions.

We are supposed to have our ego. Trying to get rid of the ego is like trying to get rid of our lungs. The question is “do we want to express our ego through love or fear?” Our altered egos (our ego expressed through fear) can sometimes take over whom we really are. We know we are expressing through fear, any level of fear when we react or become upset with what we think is said or what we perceive is happening. ANY RESPONSE through upset comes from some fear. If we deny this remain in same old old old even if we attempt to change outward appearances. In any relationships, intimate or not, we become defensive when we disagree on something. Our altered egos take the best of us. It’s hard to “agree to disagree” and leave it at that. We always want to be right, and we want to be told it. We don’t want to look like fools and we want to make a point. Why is it that we can’t just admit someone else is right and not feel any loss? It is because we programmed ourselves to think a certain way and do certain things. Although Veronique’s words may not come right out and say this, this is another way to think about it while you are trying to find it in yourself.

Veronique talks about our main fears, which include: judgment, blame, guilt, shame, etc. The list is endless and she even includes a list of “frequently used words” that can belittle others and us. If we take away these feelings, what are we left with? If we move into our pure and divine ego and release any judgment we may have on others, or ourselves what are we changing about ourselves? Take these next couple weeks and think about how you can live through your pure and divine ego. Add more of an unconditional way of being in your life and watch how much better you feel about yourself and how much more respect others will give you. This is one of the first steps to completing the new you.

Tags: self help, ego, personal development, the choice is mine

If my core is love, “Where,” I asked “could any cycle of conditional
fear-based reactions to life experiences possibly be coming
from?”

This question evolved into this empowering awareness.
Anger/fear/upsets births when you think you are NOT able to
give or receive according to your personal conditional perception
and subconscious understanding of what you think is love.
Upset of any kind can not be created in love. Love just is and
has no conditions around its existence. Upsets occurs because
every human being lives by and through love alone, therefore if
our conditional perception of love is being threatened, anger/
fear/upsets go off like warning bells and red flags because you
think you have to fight to the end to hang on to what you think
is love.

Understanding how you formed this inner and outer conditional
perception of love—opens you to revealing your subconscious
beliefs that hold you back from receiving sooner rather than later.
These are the beliefs which create conditionally or
unconditionally your life experiences. Conditionally you receive
loss, lack, upset, struggle and illness. Unconditionally your
receive grace, ease and abundance. It simply is what it is.
LOVE JUST IS… BECAUSE YOU ARE. Perceptions or
determinations of needing, or wanting to define love and place
it tightly and ever so neatly in a controlled thinking box ends up
in various degrees of being conditional. Over time, you will
become more mindful in how your perception of love guides
each choice you make.

Have fun and laugh at what you will discover.

Upset only keeps conditions in place. The truth of love is simple.

Love is not definable. It is way beyond definition. Thank God for
that because without definition, love is allowed to remain whole,
never ‘fragmented’ in a BILLION pieces of what is expected.
Indefinable, it is allowed to simply be love. Its guiding light
allows you to remember your individual uniqueness, your true
life purpose, and will support you into being strong in both.
Conditions always and without exception, create different losses,
lack and illness. In The Choice Is Mine Course material, you will
unravel this amazing puzzle of you, your perception of love and
how knowing each will open you to your life purpose.

© 2008 Veronique
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